FAQs

Get Answers to Frequently Asked Questions

My partner and I are having a hard time communicating. Can you help us? 

Yes, Asher can help. Asher has been educated in relationship/couple and family counseling and has been working directly with relationship for years.  Asher uses Emotion Focused Therapy for Couples in addition to Narrative Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Experiential Therapy, Solution Focused Based therapy and various post-modern theoretical approaches to help your relationship heal.  Asher will work with your relationship to increase communication and understand each others attachment needs to help rebuild your relationship.

We are in a polyamorous relationship. Can you help our relationship? 

Asher has worked with a number of polyamorous and open relationships to improve communication, improve imtimacy, discuss relationship roles and flourish through challenges a polyamorous relationship may face in the society that we live in.  Asher has a comprehensive understanding of polyamory and how to best strengthen your relationship.

Why would I need a therapist for a gender or sexuality transition? 

Sexuality, sex and gender are believed to be crucial parts of daily life and overall happiness.  Asher Eno, a Denver psychotherapist specializing in sexuality and gender transitions, believes that sexuality, gender, and sex identities can change throughout one’s lifetime and in relation to those around you.   We live in a society that can deliver harmful messages to gender non-conforming and sexuality variant individuals, relationship and families.  Asher believes a full life can be lived regardless of any struggles one may be facing in these areas.

What if my son or daughter is displaying a different gender role? 

If your son or daughter is displaying a different gender role than they have been assigned at birth, it can be a confusing and difficult time for family members, teachers, peers and society.  Asher will work with your family to supply resources and educate your family on various ways to support and love your child.

I think my daughter or son may be gay. Can you help us with this? 

Asher can help your family to create the most supportive, loving, and educated environment for your child and your family.  Asher will work with your family to understand your goals and desires given any situation and will find a way for your family to maintain a positive atmosphere regarding sexuality variations.

My child is being bullied because of their sexuality or gender. Can you help?

Many times children and adolescents are bullied when they outwardly present a different gender or sexuality then that of the societal norm.  Asher will work with your family, your child and your school, if necessary, to create the most supportive environment for your child.

My son wears pink and likes to play with dolls. What can we do?

Many children display various gender roles and play with many different types of toys.  When a child’s desires differ from societies expectations, it can be concerning to parents.  Asher will work with your child through play techniques and coaching to assess his/her gender identity and work with the family to create a positive and inclusive environment for your child.

Why is it important to come in as a family if it is only my child that needs help? 

Asher has been trained to focus on systems we each belong to where it is important to include the entire family during the counseling process.  Asher understands that we all grow through our experiences and environment. While Asher may work with the child individually from time to time, Asher believes it is crucial to work with the entire family to help educate and support the child.

My child was born with ambiguous genitalia. What should we do? 

Many times children are born with ambiguous genitalia.  This is a far more common occurrence than many think. Doctors may make the decision at birth to reconstruct the genitalia to fit societal expectations of what physically defines a little boy or girl.  Some parents elect not to have assignment surgery for their child.  Asher can work with your family to make the most informed decision and provide various resources.  Many people live fulfilled lives with ambiguous genitalia and have found a home within the intersex community.  Asher will listen to your families concerns to make an educated decision on how to raise a child with ambiguous genitalia.

I am interested in transitioning to a different gender. How can you help me? 

For many people, they know that their assigned gender at birth does not match the gender they idenity with.  There are many options for individuals who would like to live as a different gender then that which they were assigned at birth.  Asher has personal experience in this arena as Asher identifies as gender non-binary, feeling Asher encompasses both masculine and feminine qualities and no gender qualities, at the same time.  

Whether it is your desire to begin living as your gender identity or find a place outside the male/female binary system, Asher can provide resources to you and work with you to live your life to the fullest.  Many times parents, employers and friends can cause stressful situations when deciding to transition.  Asher will work to understand your personal goals and help you make an informed decision and to coach and support you through your journey.  Additionally, Asher will work with you to support and assist you through hormone replacement therapy or sexual affirming surgery.

My partner and I want to enhance our sex life. How can you help? 

Asher views sex as an integral part of any romantic relationship and believes that a healthy sex life can improve communication and overall relationship satisfaction.  Asher will discuss your goals, fantasies, desires and wishes, and work with you and your partner to find a wonderful way to be intimate.  Many times, sex can be very vulnerable and we may need to increase emotional intimacy prior to focusing on sex. Asher is well versed in many techniques and different sexual desires.  Asher will work to normalize your experience so that you and your partner may have all your desires fulfilled.

I think I am attracted to all genders. Can you help me? 

Bisexuality, pansexuality and other various identifications are very real and an amazing thing for many people.  Being attracted to various genders can be very confusing for any individual.  Asher can work with you to discuss your fears, concerns, fantasies and desires.  Asher can assist in your navigation of the various LGBTQ communities.

I want to tell my family I am gay or transgender but am scared. Can you help me? 

First of all, yes, Asher can assist you.  Coming out as gay, bisexual, lesbian, queer, or transgender to your peers and family members is a very large step in your journey.  Asher can act as a support and educator as you decide whether or not to come out to your family, friends or coworkers.  Asher has a great deal of education and personal experience these arenas and would love to help support you as you navigate all aspects of coming out or emerging as your preferred sexuality or gender identification.